Plus 1 Tips
The first +1 hangout.
Make it great.
Practical advice for the first time you meet someone in person through Plus 1.
You matched. You agreed to the plan. Now it is real. Here is how to set yourself up for a first +1 hangout that goes well, whatever the context (friendship, networking, or dating).
Before
Confirm the night before
A short message confirming the time, place, and what you are looking forward to. Reduces no-show risk on both sides and signals you are serious.
Pick a venue with a built-in topic
A gallery, a tasting menu, a concert, a guided experience. Something that gives you both something specific to react to instead of "so, tell me about yourself."
Have a soft exit
Tell yourself you can leave after 90 minutes if it is not clicking. This removes the pressure to commit to a full night.
During
Ask open questions early
"What made you post this plan?" is a better opener than "what do you do?" because it surfaces motivation, not resume.
Share something specific
Mirror back. If they share something personal, share something specific in return. Generic = forgettable.
Stay off your phone
Real talk: the easiest way to ruin a first +1 is checking your phone every five minutes. Put it in your pocket.
After
Follow up the next morning
A short specific message: "Loved the [thing you talked about]. Want to do [specific next plan]?" Most people skip this step. It is the difference between a one-time hang and a recurring friendship.
Decide on next steps fast
If you want to see them again, suggest a specific next plan within 48 hours. If not, a polite "great meeting you" is fine. The middle is what kills connections.
Plan ideas for first +1s
- Brunch (see our Miami brunch guide)
- Wynwood gallery walk + drinks (see Wynwood date night)
- Wellness class (yoga, run club - see Miami wellness)
- Happy hour (see Brickell happy hour)
For the broader weekend menu, see 10 best things to do in Miami this weekend.